Violet de Lucy (née Paynter)
1883 - 1963

 Relationship to me: Great Aunt Gen -2 

Violet at her wedding
1907

(see below for whole photo)
 Born: 1883  
 Died: 1963 - Sutton Valence, Kent  
 Age 79  
 Father:      Henry Paynter 1846 - 1919
 Mother: Henrietta Paynter (née Newman) 1849 - 1914
 Brothers: (elder) Ernest 1869 - 1958
  William 1870 ~ 1888 
  Fredrick 1872 - 1945
  Edwin Coleman 1882 - c.1975
 Sisters:   (elder) Kate 1868 - 1953
  Lilian  1873 - 1958
  Eva 1876 - ???? 
  Winnie 1878 - 1943
  Rose 1885 - 1930
  (younger) Edith May 1889 - 1982 
  Olive  1893 - c.1953
 Married: Frank de Lucy m. 15 Oct 1907 1863 - 1942
 Children: Henry 1908 - 1896
  William 1910 -1940
  Arthur Bernard  1912 - 1941
  John  1914 - 1975
  Joyce  1920 - 2004


Violet's wedding photo - 15th Oct 1907
Back row l - r:: Olive Paynter, Frank Lucy, Violet Lucy (née Paynter), Edith Paynter, Sydney Lucy
Front Row l - r: Kathleen Manly Powers (Katherine's daughter), Mollie Wilson
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From my father's "Reminiscences": "A determined strong character; taught in a London kindergarten; married a widower Frank Lucy, an ex-rubber planter from Malaya; lived at Sutton Valence where I visited them quite often from Chatham".


Outline her Life: Ian Caldwell notes: Violet Paynter (Vi), b.1883, baptised 27/9/1883, married 15/10/1907 to Francis William Lucy Esquire of Weston under Penyard, Ross. She had previously been engaged to a much older man in 1899 who had given her a ring which she lost. He made such a fuss about her losing the ring that she broke off the engagement. So she married Frank Lucy, who was also a much older man and they lived in Kent. Frank Lucy had been married before and had three children, Richard (Dick), Mary and Mardi, by his first wife, who had committed suicide by drowning herself in a lake. His children were much the same age as Vi. One of Vi's first acts on entering the family was to get rid of the cat, which the children had been fond of, but which Vi thought unhygienic.

Dick was in the navy as a radio operator. He found the heat in the Mediterranean intolerable, ran up on the deck and shot himself as he jumped over the side. Neither Mary nor Mardi got married. Mardi was very quiet and shy and did gardening work. Mary ran a sweet shop at Sutton Valence School and was a great help to Joyce with her children and a good sister to Mardi.

Vi was always correct and very formal, dressing for dinner, and Frank was very fond of her, often laying his hand affectionately on hers at table. She wore garnets and had striking dark brown hair, even when she was an old woman.


Last updated: 10th August 2016 - Names added under wedding photo, courtesy of Ian Caldwell and Olive's birth year corrected. 
Updated: 5th April 2004